Trans artist on Wellington dating scene: ‘flaky, boring fuckboys’ and disrespect of identity
A 30-year-old non-binary artist in Wellington shares their experience with dating apps and the challenges they face finding genuine connections.
A non-binary Pākehā artist based in Wellington has taken a break from dating apps after encountering flaky matches and people who don't respect their trans identity. They're seeking someone kind, ambitious and compassionate, but say most encounters involve either disrespectful behaviour or poor conversation. The artist reflects on past relationships, awkward dates and what they value in a partner, offering perspective on modern dating's emotional toll.
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Dating Files: A trans person meeting a lot of ‘flaky, boring fuckboys’
‘Currently taking a pause for my sanity.’ Want to be part of Dating Files? Fill out the questionnaire here . Age: 30 Gender: Non-binary Sexuality: Bisexual Ethnicity: Pākehā Religion: Atheist Occupation: Artist My living location is: Wellington The apps I’m…